Here is some bad news.
We have a lot of thoughts every day, and most of them have a negative bias.
Thoughts just come and go. They come and go mostly out of our control and out of our awareness. Our mind is a master storyteller, so one thought spins another and another….
Watch: Thought Bubbles – feat. Vincent Rodriguez III – “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend”
Here is the good news, though:
You don’t have to take them all too seriously. All of our minds operate like this. Yours, mine, everybody’s…
AND: Thoughts change on their own account if we change something like what we do, our environment (take a stroll in the garden / park / forest), doing some exercise (doing some star jumps or a little jog), or just noticing that we are having thoughts, which drift in and out like clouds in Wales…):
Watch: I’m noticing I’m having the thoughts that:
It is understandable that many people try to change or control their thinking. There is a bit more bad news about this, though:
Trying to suppress a thought just makes them stronger!
Try this little experiment: For a couple of minutes DON’T THINK of a GREEN FROG!!!!
If this didn’t work for you, I can’t do it either!
Any suppressed thoughts become stronger and intrusive. So, we are better off to just let them flow through and not engage in struggle with them.
Watch: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: Observing Self:
Remember: thoughts and feelings are like the weather – changeable, your noticing, purely observing self is like the sky!